Discipline Vs Punishment

       My father being an effective teacher, reared us with good practices. He ensured that all his children are highly effective. We in turn replicated those which we experienced with some more learning from our environment and nurtured our children in a friendly way to suit the changing scenario, making them good disciplinarians without their knowledge, making them know the consequences of any bad or unacceptable behavior. This made us not to undergo any stress with regard to children upbringing and not even the problems of teenage.

      When I heard from my instructor that the root for discipline is disciple that is one who follows. It was an extra dimension for my thinking. Really great info. When parents walk the talk, they are modelling and hand-holding children how to manage the life, when happy and also when unhappy. So according to me, the parents and in schools teachers should reflect on themselves and find out as to how they could manage their kids. A mindful act definitely contributes a lot to the society as these children bring laurels to the parents and the school. Discipline makes the children to have self-control, self-motivate, learn from experiences, develop responsibility, self-esteem and self-assertion. Allow the child to burn the hand is a famous dictum which makes the child to develop itself from its experiences. No child is good or bad by birth. It is the nurturing and the environment which makes it good or bad. My classmate in my schooling days had such great wonderful memory and used to excel every where but probably lack of parental attention ended up him being a high school drop out and with  a minuscule job. Disciplining is a positive way of rearing a child.

      Some parents are very happy using their high tone (verbal), spank or physical punishments thinking that their children will be under their control. This unwanted strictness may end up with an inferiority complex about the child itself or hatred about the parents may start. But when a child is too crazy or cranky, probably conditioning with penalties may help the child to correct itself. Not all children can learn from their mistakes. It needs some conditioning. But sometime rewarding is used a way of teaching the child which may end up with a demanding situation for the child to do its own work. Spare the rod and spoil the child is a famous adage which clearly says that punishment spoils a child.

      Children always never do whatever the parents ask them to do, they do whatever the parents do. So, discipline yourself and discipline your child is what I believe in.